We all know that we need it, but most of the time we don’t know how to get it, even when those moments present themselves. Relaxing can be hard to come by when we’re either programmed to keep going or have no choice in the matter.
But once the time actually comes here are best 8 tips for those who suck at relaxing.
Choose what’s best for you
Relaxing isn’t a one size fits all, so choose what’s best for you and surround yourself with it. Some may find sitting alone quietly for a half hour as relaxing, while others may enjoy scrolling through Facebook. The point is to do something to calm your mind, put your feet up and take some deep breaths each day.
Make the commitment
It’s easy to say that you’re going to find some time to relax this weekend, but actually doing it is another story. Making the commitment is necessary; even scheduling it on your calendar if need be. If you’re intentional with your mental health, you will benefit more and making the effort to relax play a significant role.
Turn off distractions
Our biggest culprit nowadays is our freaking cell phones, turn if off, or down, just for that short period of time you’re taking for yourself. I’ve been there, waiting for a text or call, but wanting to do yoga, and every single time having to stop for my phone; which defeats the purpose.
Your cell phone will be there after you’ve taken some time out, and you’ll be even more proud of yourself for finding some balance with interruptions, in addition to relaxing.
Balance out your relaxation time
Most of us plan on relaxing on the weekends while stressing out all week; which isn’t good for our health. Instead, be aware of when you might have an opportunity to sit for 10 minutes and put your feet up on a Tuesday. Those short bursts of relaxation really count and will become a practice as time goes on.
Set deadlines and stick to them
With so many of us working from home, it’s difficult to not overlap work and life, but if you set a deadline and do your best to stick to it, there’s a much better chance you’ll have more balance in your life.
For example, even something as simple as making dinner, give yourself a deadline that you must be finished so that you can sit and enjoy your meal with your family.
Choose a bedtime and stick to it the best you can so that you have that downtime to relax your mind before falling to sleep. Simply put, intention leads to better routines.
What we tell ourselves matters
Self talk dictates our life in positive and negative ways, so be aware of what you’re telling yourself because it matters. Know what makes you feel anxious, such as having the news on the TV while making dinner, if it doesn’t make you feel good, turn it off.
If you feel guilty for not completing a task on your to-do list, write it on the next day’s list as your first priority and take that time to calm your mind. Use common sense, tell yourself it’s going to be ok and be grateful for what you did accomplish that day.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help
We feel like we have to do everything to make sure it’s done correctly and also to make everyone in our lives happy. As people pleasers and control freaks, sometimes it’s ok to ask for help from our kids, husbands or friends.
Planning the help is even more beneficial in finding time to relax. For instance, tell the kids on Monday that they’re doing the dishes on Wednesday night so that you can do yoga for a half hour or watch your favorite show.
Getting into the practice of leaning on others a little bit will not only help you find some time for yourself, but will set a precedent that you’re important too.
Be patient with yourself
No one is going to snap their fingers and become great at relaxing, so be patient with yourself. Incorporate these tips, take some time and do your best. The most important bit of advice I can give you today is to take a deep breath and tell yourself you’re going to be ok. When we believe in ourselves, wonderful things happen.
Stay safe and healthy my friends. xo